Bibaha

 Unit--1

jab meree shaadee tay huee tab main shaayad paanchaveen kaksha mein thee aur terah saal kee thee. main garmee kee chhuttiyon mein jeeraadeee gaya hua tha. dulhan ke pita, aara mein mukhtiyaar, aur unaka chhota bhaee, baliya mein ek vakeel, jo hamaare gaanv aae the, mujhase milane ke lie hamaare ghar aae. mere pita ne mujhe bulaava bheja. aagantukon ne mujhase kuchh prashn poochhe aur thodee der baad main sevaanivrtt ho gaya. ve santusht hue aur maich ke lie apanee sveekrti ka sanket diya. kuchh dinon ke baad, tilak (manganee ka prateek) praapt hua, aur, parampara ke anusaar, kapade, bartan aur rupaye ka nakad upahaar mila. 2,000. mere pita nakad upahaar ke ichchhuk nahin the, lekin choonki dulhan paksh ne is par jor diya, isalie unhonne ise sveekaar kar liya.

tab do hajaar rupaye kaaphee achchhee rakam maanee jaatee thee. sagaee ke avasar par upahaar jitana adhik hoga, baaraat mein dhoomadhaam aur pradarshan utana hee adhik hoga aur dulhan ke lie gahane aadi kee prathaagat peshakash utanee hee mahangee hogee. us samay hamaaree aarthik sthiti bahut achchhee nahin thee. parivaar mein huee mauton ke kaaran hamen kaaphee aarthik tanaav jhelana pada; akaal kee sthiti ke kaaran jameendaaree bahut laabhadaayak nahin thee aur hamaare kharche badh gae the, hamaaree shiksha aur lambee mukadamebaajee ke kaaran, jisamen parivaar shaamil tha. in kathinaiyon ke baavajood, hamaare parivaar kee pratishtha banae rakhane ke lie, mere pita ne shaadee ko ek bhavy samaaroh banaane ka phaisala kiya. unhonne aabhooshanon par dil kholakar kharch kiya. any vyay bhee utane hee bhavy the.

Unit --2

lagabhag ek sadee pahale vivaah juloos vistrt aur bhavy hote the. paath kee nimnalikhit ikaee ko padhen aur aanand len ki lekhak ko apanee baaraat ka vivaran kis prakaar yaad hai.

hamaare yahaan ghodon aur haathiyon ke saath bhavy baaraat nikaalane kee pratha thee. meree shaadee ka din ek asaadhaaran shubh din tha aur us din kaee shaadiyaan theen, ghodon aur haathiyon kee bahut maang thee aur isalie ham keval ek haathee aur kuchh ghode hee khareed pae.

shaadee jeraadeee se 40 meel door baliya jile ke dalan-chhapara mein honee thee. isaka matalab tha do din kee yaatra. dal bada hone aur keval ek haathee aur kuchh ghode hone ke kaaran kaee paalakiyaan seva mein lagaayee gayeen. mera bhaee ek majaboot ghode par savaar hokar aaya, mere pita aur any rishtedaar paalakiyon mein aur main ek vishesh paalakee mein. doolhe kee paalakee ek ajeeb maamala tha. chaandee se nirmit, yah dhaarakon ke lie bahut bhaaree bojh tha. sheersh par khula, isamen savaar ko joon kee tez dhoop se bachaane ke lie ek chhataree thee. hava ne chhatr ko uda diya, jisase vah ek prakaar ke gubbaare mein badal gaya aur vaahakon kee pragati kathin ho gaee. dhoop aur garm havaon ke beech paalakee mein savaaree karane mein koee maja nahin tha.

shaam ko hamane sarajoo ke kinaare ek gaanv mein dera daala. hamane raat bhar aaraam kiya aur agalee subah ham nadee paar karane lage. saamaan, paalakee, ghode aur bailagaadiyon ko naavon par le jaaya jaata tha jabaki haathee ko tairakar paar karaaya jaata tha. lekin haathee ke paas is vishay par any vichaar the. aisa lag raha tha jaise ghar vaapas jaane par aamaada ho. mahaavat ne use apane raaste par laane kee pooree koshish kee; haathee thoda aage badhata lekin peechhe mud jaata. ek ghante tak isee tarah luka-chhipee karane ke baad use naavon se baandhakar paar le jaane kee koshish kee gaee, lekin koee phaayada nahin hua. haathee ke vichaar nishchit hone ke kaaran, hamane anichchha se use apane saath le jaane ka vichaar tyaag diya. mahaavat apane haathee ko lekar laut aaya. mere pita ke lie yah ek rinch tha. unakee khud kee baaraat ko kaee haathiyon kee upasthiti se pratishthit kiya gaya tha, unhen svaabhaavik roop se niraasha huee ki unake bete kee baaraat ko ek bhee haathee dvaara sammaanit nahin kiya jaana chaahie tha. lekin ham pahale hee samay se peechhe the; isalie ham tej gati se chal pade. haalaanki, shaam ko mere pita kee ichchha pooree huee. jab ham apane gantavy ke nikat pahunche to hamane dekha ki kuchh haathee hamaaree or aa rahe hain. unakee sagaee kisee doosaree baaraat mein huee thee aur shaadee khatm hone ke baad ve laut rahe the. mahaavaton se kuchh baaten kee gaeen aur maamala sulajh gaya; haathee hamaare dal mein shaamil ho gaye. raat ke 11 baje ham dulhan ke ghar pahunch gaye.

hamaare aagaman mein deree ke kaaran dulhan paksh ghabara rahe the aur haalaanki jab ham antatah pahunche to unhen raahat milee, lekin ve thoda niraash the kyonki hamaaree paartee dhoomadhaam aur sho mein unakee apeksha ke anuroop nahin thee. lekin jab unhonne dekha to unakee aatmaen punarjeevit ho gaeen gahane, poshaaken, mithaiyaan aur any upahaar, jo ham dulhan ke lie lae the. doolhe ko dekh kar unhen bhee khushee huee ya nahin, main nahin jaanata!

Unit --3

jaisa ki mainne kaha, jab hamaaree paartee yaatra ke ant mein pahunchee, to kaaphee raat ho chukee thee aur main paalakee mein hee so gaya tha. vivaah-poorv samaarohon se gujarana pada aur mere logon ke lie ladake-dulhan ko jagaana kaaphee kathin kaam tha. do dinon kee thakaoo yaatra ke baad, atyant prayaas se main samaarohon ke dauraan apanee aankhen khulee rakhane mein kaamayaab raha. usee raat shaadee huee.

samaarohon ka vivaran mujhe yaad nahin hai. jab main chhotee thee to main apanee bahan ke saath gudiyon kee shaadee ke khel mein shaamil hotee thee. mere lie, meree apanee shaadee bahut alag nahin thee. mujhe na to shaadee ka mahatv samajh aaya aur na hee usakee zimmedaaree ka ehasaas hua. maich nipataane mein mera koee haath nahin tha. main ek masheen kee tarah samaarohon mein gaee, pandit ya ghar kee mahilaon ne mujhe jo bhee karane ko kaha, vahee kiya. main mushkil se samajh saka ki kya hua tha. mujhe bas itana pata tha ki mere ghar mein koee meree patnee banakar aaegee, jaise mere bhaee kee patnee aaee thee.

shaadee sampann hone ke baad kabhee-kabhee dulhan doolhe ke saath turant usake ghar nahin jaatee hai. kuchh samay baad, ek aur chhota dal ladakee ko laane jaata hai. is samaaroh ko dyooraagamain ke naam se jaana jaata hai. mere maamale mein aisa hee tha. dulhan ke ghar mein do din rahane ke baad ham ghar laut aaye. ek saal baad jab meree patnee hamaare ghar aaee to dyooraagamain ka pradarshan kiya gaya.

ham parda pratha ke sakht samarthak the. mujhe yaad hai jab mere bhaee kee patnee hamaare ghar aaee thee to vah do naukaraaniyaan lekar aaee thee aur vah keval unheen se baat kar paatee thee. usake paas apane lie ek kamara tha aur vah kabhee baraamade mein bhee nahin aatee thee. rasoiya aur komal vrddh naukaron ke alaava kisee ko bhee aangan mein pravesh karane kee anumati nahin thee, jo bachapan mein apanee maataon ke saath us sthaan par aate the. aangan se rasoee tak jaane se pahale rasoiye ko zor se chetaavanee denee padee. yadi use kisee cheez kee aavashyakata hotee, to ek naukaraanee usake lie vah cheez le aatee. jab meree bhaabhee nahaane ke lie jaana chaahee to sabhee ko aangan se baahar kar diya gaya. kisee ladake ko bhee aasapaas ghoomane kee ijaajat nahin thee. atirikt suraksha ke lie, jab vah aakhir mein snaan ke lie jaatee thee to do naukaraaniyaan donon taraph parde ke roop mein bedasheet le jaatee theen. jab meree maan, chaachee ya bahan usake kamare mein pravesh karatee thee tab bhee vah apana ghoonghat kheench letee thee. jeeraadeee kee koee bhee naukaraanee usake kamare mein nahin ja sakatee thee. bachapan mein ek-do baar ko chhodakar mainne kabhee usaka chehara nahin dekha tha.

jab meree patnee zeraadeee aaee to use bhee vaisa hee vyavahaar karana pada, lekin kaafee samay baad niyamon mein dheel dee gaee.